Happy halfway through June! Midwest summers are no joke, and I feel like I'm still adjusting to how crazy they are after living in the eternal summer land that is LA. I am loving the busyness, and yet also craving a little more downtime - alas, poor me, much travel is on my horizon, so I doubt my blogging consistency will be improving for the next month or two. But you never know. Nevertheless, she persisted. Etc. Anyway, here are some things I've been diggin' for the past few weeks!
:: How to Stop Regretting Decisions, by Martha Beck. Every word of this is so motherfucking true I can hardly handle it, and it makes me so glad that I figured most of this out through the events of my twenties (keeping in mind that "figuring it out" is different than "living it perfectly"). Quote of note: "So the ultimate lesson of regret, the one that will help guide you into a rich and satisfying future, is this: Every time life brings you to a crossroads, from the tiniest to the most immense, go toward love, not away from fear. Think of every choice in terms of 'What would thrill and delight me?” rather than “What will keep my fear—or the events, people, and things I fear—at bay?'"
:: And another (I'm a little Martha Beck-obsessed right now): The Storm Before the Calm. Quote of note: "We forget that to give us more than we currently have, life must make us more than we currently are. And that the first act of every creative change is the destruction of the existing order."
:: Anne Lamott, spewing wisdom left and right. I watched this in bed, in the morning, after sleeping in, while it stormed outside, and it made me really, really happy:
:: Last week, I learned about bow echoes - storm systems that look like an archer's bow on the radar, and produce straight line winds, hail, and sometimes tornados - on MPR, and now my weather radar addiction is at an all time high. Below is an example that I took a screen shot of on my phone - this one is kinda weak, but you can also check out some Google images of more severe examples. I really like weather.
:: This article about endometriosis and birth control, by Lena Dunham. As a woman with endometriosis, the debate over birth control is one that means a lot to me. When I was diagnosed with endo a couple years ago, I was told by my doctor that birth control was the best way to stop it from progressing. My decision to use birth control had nothing to do with wanting to traipse around the planet having sex with every penis I met. It was not a moral issue for me. It was a health issue. It is a health issue.
:: Everything about this article about our cultural norms and values behind love, marriage, singledom, and how those ideas are in the middle of a sea change (as they have multiple times in the past). If this is a topic that interests you, I would also highly recommend Elizabeth Gilbert's book, Committed, which includes some interesting historical and cultural tidbits about marriage, woven in with her personal story of deciding whether or not to marry the man she fell in love with at the end of Eat, Pray, Love journey (fun fact: they did get married, and then got divorced this year; Elizabeth Gilbert is now partners with one of her best friends, who has a terminal cancer diagnosis. Life is complicated and messy and amazing, and I love it).
:: I've retained one of my part-time evening/weekend gig on top of my full-time job, just for a little extra cash. Last night while I was working, I watched this guy dismantle his web just like in the below video, for over an hour. He then proceeded to build a fresh, shiny new web that I couldn't get a good picture of because the sun set and I was shooting through a window. It was so cool to watch, I had no idea spiders even did stuff like this.